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10 things not to do when making big life decisions.
It’s up to you.
In the last three years of roller coasters, I’ve found myself at a multitude of physical and metaphorical crossroads. When making decisions with my indecisive mind these are what I would suggest not doing:
1. Don’t ask someone else what they would do.
As my beloved Grandma told me, “Fuck the shoulds.” Asking someone to tell you what you should do or what they would do is not the question to ask. They have different life experiences, different perspectives, different motivations. They are not you. If you feel like you needconsult ask questions not around swapping shoes. Instead try asking what they considered when they were in a similar situation to see if you missed something.
2. Don’t think you can change your mind.
Commit. If you’re not committed you’ll find your way halfway down the road asking yourself “what ifs” and never let yourself go on what could potentially be the rest of your life or the best breakfast buffet you’ve ever had.
3. Don’t think you can’t change your mind.
This is counter to what I just said, bare with me. Once you decide what direction to go in give 100%. The point of this is…