I would argue it's not pathetic, but normal. The eagerness to find a long term partner is a reflection of how we're trained as women. We're supposed to want to have "the one" it's normal in spite of what women sacrifice. At 18 I thought I was destined for failure because I was single. At 21, I stayed with my abuser from fear of being alone and a belief that I was as worthless as he said I was. At 34 sometimes I still feel his messaging and a fear of being alone, but I'd rather battle the messaging and the fear than succomb to them. The messaging is destructive. From abusive partners. From society. From really anyone that says "should" and pressures us or sends messages to us that finding ourselves must take a back seat to finding a man.