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Relationships Without Alcohol
6 Lessons I learned from sober dating.
I stopped drinking almost 10 months ago because I was physically uncomfortable. I continued to not drink because I realized that most of my life has been experienced with the company of alcohol, particularly men. In my sobriety, there have been some real upsides.
I’m not a cheap date.
Men always joke that I’m a cheap date because I get drunk easily. I suppose I’m an even cheaper date sober, except if they’re hoped to get laid. Without the wine at dinner, I require effort. If they just want a companion for a meal, the short term for men means they’re saving money. But, if they’re going to get into these nicely fitting Madewell jeans of mine, they have to see me more than once. And, even then, there’s still no guarantee.
First-time sex is terrifying and thrilling.
The terrifying part looks like unfamiliar coordination. The thrilling part is actually being present for the ride. I’ve always missed the first time having sex with someone because I’ve always been three to nine sheets to the wind. Now, I can remember it in all its awkward and sexy glory.