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The 5 Red Flags from Dating in 2019 I missed
They say hindsight is 20/20. I say hindsight is WTF lets end this toxic dating cycle.
They say hindsight is 20/20. I say hindsight is whatever you make it to be, particularly when it comes to dating. Many will throw out the old, “I don’t know why I keep attracting these kinds of people,” or “I just have bad luck with dating.” I was included in that many, but recently I’ve noted some behaviors of mine in reflection that could probably help me break the cycle of bad boyfriends. Perhaps you can learn something too.
Evidence:
A few of the behaviors I found in my writing. I thought it would be an interesting exercise to use one of the 75 drafts on Medium as a writing prompt for today. I found one of the first pieces I ever wrote about self-esteem and dating. To say it was disappointing would be an understatement. What I wrote:
“Until about a month ago, I was really doing well on fine-tuning some of my less desirable traits. One of them being how insecure I am.
I’ve been doing an “I am enough” marathon for the entirety of 2019. I know I am enough. I know it. There’s a qualifier. I mean, for me.
For me, I am absolutely enough. I’ve spent days contemplating the relevancy of beauty and how subjective it is based on cultural and individual…